Posts tagged angry aspie

neuroatypically-speaking:

Stop telling me to be nice to people who aren’t nice to me.

Stop telling me that being angry at some people automatically means I’m being angry at all of them.

Stop telling me to “walk away”; they told me that in school when people bullied me and those people kept right on bullying me.

Stop telling me to ignore it; I ignored it for years, and while I was ignoring it, everything was disintegrating into a pile of ignorant, ableist shit. 

While I’ve been happily avoiding social interaction, especially anything to do with autism, children have been beaten and killed; research has become a three-ring circus and diagnostic practices have turned into a fucking joke; shitbags like Jenny McCarthy and Autism Speaks have been spreading lies and ignorance that cause autistic people to be treated like they’re inhuman; allistic people have decided that they know about autism better than we do and constantly tell us to shut up; and people have been working overtime to rid the world of us.

I was diagnosed in 1995. Back then, they tested me. They spent time with me, they video taped me so they could watch the tapes later and be certain of what they were seeing. They did not diagnose me as Asperger’s because of when I started speaking; they observed me, and used those observations to come to a real conclusion, like proper scientists.

They don’t do that anymore. The term “high-functioning” is now meaningless; they no longer seem to care what the word “functioning” means, that functioning ability can change. Everything is about labels and cures now. I grew up lucky, with experts who knew what they were doing and what they were talking about, but since then things have been changing for the worst.

They’ve been changing while I’ve been ignoring and walking away and being nice. And people like me are suffering for it.

I’m done being nice. I’m done keeping my mouth shut. So many autistic people have no idea what it’s like to be handled by doctors the way I was; so many autistic people have no idea how bright the future was looking before Jenny McCarthy and Andrew Wakefield and Autism Speaks turned everything to shit.

I do. I’ve had the opportunity to come to an understanding of who I am, of how I function. Now matter how much shit I’ve been through, and there’s been a lot, I’ve still had it better, and I’ve hidden while other people have fought. Even though I’ve been told by so many people that I explain things well, that I make it easy for them to understand, I never spoke. 

I never spoke. 

I’m not going to stop speaking now that I’ve started. I’m not going to sit here and let people get away with their nonsense. I don’t have to be nice to people who refuse to acknowledge my humanity. No one does. 

If I have to yell and scream and kick and bite, then I will. And I no longer care if people think I’m mean, because plenty of those people don’t hesitate to be mean to me. I’ve played nice. I’ve played by their rules. Now I’m playing by mine. 

neuroatypically-speaking:

BEFORE BREAKFAST IS TOO FUCKING EARLY FOR YOUR PRIVILEGED BULLSHIT.

At least save it until after lunch, you ignorant douchebrained scumbags, okay? I am not a morning person, especially before I’ve eaten, and I might just have to eat your fucking faces off if you can’t stuff it for like five seconds before needing to tell me how I feel and redefine what autism is. 

I’m going to eat something so hopefully I can come up with a hedgehog that says something other than “Stab, stab, stab your face, stab your face a lot…” (To the tune of Row, Row, Row Your Boat, in case anyone is wondering.)

neuroatypically-speaking:

royally-denied:

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lordof-thestarwars:

At least you can talk. At least you can hear your child say “I LOVE YOU.” It’s a DISABILITY, A DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY. MY SON HAS AUTISM. He can’t talk at all and he bites himself when he gets frustrated or excited so bad that his hand is calloused. Asperger kids/people get more fucking benefits. More help, more attention. FUCK THAT. 

THE GOVERNMENT IS FUCKED UP. SO IS SOCIETY. 

THANK YOU.

I’m seriously fed up with all the kids nowadays who have a social life, good grades, friends, etc., and just because they’re “awkward” or from time to time have anxiety (which absolutely every person in the world does) they automatically label themselves as autists, it’s upsetting!

Wow, seriously? Fuck the everloving fuck off, asshole. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome by one of the foremost experts on the east coast when I was nine. An EXPERT, something you are clearly not. Don’t sit and run your fucking mouth about people you don’t know and have never spoken to. It’s thanks in part to asswaffles like you that my life has been so hard. 

You have no idea what I or other people like me go through. Because some of us get good grades, we’re not autistic? Shows how little you know. Autistic doesn’t mean stupid. It doesn’t mean we can never communicate, never make friends, never have relationships. It never has and it never will.

Shut your ignorant fucking mouth. I’m starting to see where “allistic scum” came from.

Oh lawdy.

And that happens to what, 80% of the population? Almost every kid/teen/whatever in the world has problem communicating or making friends, you’re just using Aspergers as an excuse for that. Unless you’re implying everyone in the world has this illness, which is just silly.

And you know what’s funny? Aspergers is a real thing, or at least it used to be, it was inicially used for people who, which much effort, love and dedication came out of their own personal world caused by autism and are struggling to get used to the “real world”. That’s what aspergers was. But it was modified to fit all these socially awkward people who’re not even trying. Heck, even I have problems making friends but I just try a bit extra and sometimes fail or succeed, but you don’t see me abusing that word and using it as en excuse for having less friends than the next person. 

And honey, if you can’t have relationships then maybe try watching your language, ever thought it might be because of that? ♥

Oh look, another allistic fuckwit who can’t read and thinks they know everything. Don’t tell me to watch my language. I am married; I never said I can’t have relationships—I said the opposite, which you would know if you put the lid on your privilege and ignorance for the five fucking seconds it would take to actually read what I wrote. 

Your “definition” of Asperger’s is so ignorant and out of touch with reality, it blows my mind. Don’t sit here and tell me I’m abusing the word. I AM AUTISTIC. I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH IT. By people a fuck of a lot smarter than your daft ass, I might add. I’ve been diagnosed since I was nine. Almost twenty years now. You don’t get to sit here and tell me what AS is, especially when your “definition” is about five thousand tons of woo and bullshit. 

I have struggled through so much. Someone like you wouldn’t have survived what I’ve been through. Your mind is too weak, too small and narrow. Stop being a judgmental cockwaffle and start listening to the people who are actually going through this shit. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT AUTISM IS BETTER THAN AUTISTIC PEOPLE. 

Get the fuck out with your nonsense. And don’t you dare call me honey, you patronizing bastard. Why should I give a shit what you think about my language, since you don’t fucking listen to people anyway? Fuck off. 

neuroatypically-speaking:

royally-denied:

lordof-thestarwars:

At least you can talk. At least you can hear your child say “I LOVE YOU.” It’s a DISABILITY, A DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY. MY SON HAS AUTISM. He can’t talk at all and he bites himself when he gets frustrated or excited so bad that his hand is calloused. Asperger kids/people get more fucking benefits. More help, more attention. FUCK THAT. 

THE GOVERNMENT IS FUCKED UP. SO IS SOCIETY. 

THANK YOU.

I’m seriously fed up with all the kids nowadays who have a social life, good grades, friends, etc., and just because they’re “awkward” or from time to time have anxiety (which absolutely every person in the world does) they automatically label themselves as autists, it’s upsetting!

Wow, seriously? Fuck the everloving fuck off, asshole. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome by one of the foremost experts on the east coast when I was nine. An EXPERT, something you are clearly not. Don’t sit and run your fucking mouth about people you don’t know and have never spoken to. It’s thanks in part to asswaffles like you that my life has been so hard. 

You have no idea what I or other people like me go through. Because some of us get good grades, we’re not autistic? Shows how little you know. Autistic doesn’t mean stupid. It doesn’t mean we can never communicate, never make friends, never have relationships. It never has and it never will.

Shut your ignorant fucking mouth. I’m starting to see where “allistic scum” came from.

neuroatypically-speaking:

Because I keep seeing this, especially about feminism but about a lot of other issues, too. 

Equality does not mean “treating everyone the same.” It means treating everyone fairly and yes, there is a difference. A huge one. If two people are in a race, but one starts halfway around the track and the other person starts at the start line, the first person is going to win. That’s not a fair race.

Life is similar. Women may be able to work outside the home, go to college, run for office, etc., but we still get paid less than men, we’re often treated like we’re too incompetent for our jobs, and let’s not even get started on rape culture and the current conservative movement to strip women of pretty much every right we’ve fought so hard for. These things are not equality. They’re not being “treated the same”, they’re steps towards being treated the same.

Same goes for, say, POC. Sure, they have far more rights now than they did in 1950; that still doesn’t mean they have equality. How does racism and poverty make equality, exactly? What about people like me, who are disabled? Not only are we treated differently from how abled people are treated, but obviously we start out with other disadvantages, too. We don’t start out at the same place as other people. You see?

Women don’t start out at the same place as men. POC don’t start out at the same place as white people. Transgender people don’t start out at the same place as cis people. And so on. It’s a systemic problem, one that doesn’t go away simply because some people on the internet like to scream about how we’re all equal now. We’re not, folks.

When people are, say, feminist—when they’re fighting for a cause—it’s to make everyone start on equal footing so we can all be on equal footing. For some that means changing the system so we’re all the same from birth. For others, like me, it means educating and changing views of disabled people so our disadvantages are understood and accepted, and measures are put into place to respect our needs. 

Once we all have the same rights, the same respect, then we can talk about treating everyone the same. If you think we’re already there, you probably don’t have much experience with inequality.

P.S. First person to bring up misandry gets smacked through the internet with a frozen tuna. I mean it. Cranky aspie is cranky.