Posts tagged actually autistic
Posts tagged actually autistic
[“Katy Perry sang with an autistic girl? She has such a beautiful soul!”
Yes, how arduous, singing with an autistic girl who knows how to sing. She puts Jesus to shame. Quick, guys, let’s canonize her.]
Whoa, hey, look at that, allistic people, sarcasm! Real live, dripping-scorn-like-a-hot-cinnamon-roll-drips-icing sarcasm. Gosh, it’s almost like autistics are real people who deserve better than to be showcased on a TV show like those animals the ASPCA puts on display whenever they’re trying to find homes for them! It’s—it’s almost like we’re individuals or something! Like, you know, some of us are good at certain things and some of us aren’t, kind of like every other freakin’ person on the planet.
Okay, we’re now below the sarcasm line. Everything below this line is straight talk.
So I’m sure by now a number of you have seen this whole Night of Too Many
AllisticsStars thing and I know from looking at the tags that some of you have watched it. So send me your NoTMS related hedgehogs! Please?
No, seriously, I am straight up getting a little desperate here, trying to think up all these hedgehogs on my own. And anyway, I’m on the wrong side of the planet to even be able to watch NoTMS, so I need some help on this one. So really, please, if you have a bit of time, send me a hedgehog or two.
Saw this on the Autism tag. “Look out Autism, we’re going to deal with you!” Okay, first off, don’t these people see how immature they sound? Like, “We’re going to fight you big bad Autism doo doo head!”
I think growing up being expected to behave socially appropriate by the schools I went to, has given me no tolerance for adults who cope the way toddlers do. Autism is a developmental disorder. It’s not the boogeyman, or the monster under your bed. A child shouldn’t have to deal with a parent, who refers to their diagnoses like a scared toddler. Finding out your child has Autism means you need to be more of a parent, that means helping your child, rather than calling “Autism” bad names as if you’re going to scare it off.
A lot of consideration should go to those of us with Autism who try to understand your situation. It’s like helping a 2 year old get over their fear of the dark. Adults with Autism shouldn’t have to come and tell you it’s going to be all right, because your sniffling over your child having a difference.
I’m sure I’ll be getting over dramatic responses about how, I don’t know what it’s like, and “You’re MEAN!”. Autistic people have a right to existence. They have a right to be treated as any other child would. That means not having to parent their parents, because their parents age regressed when they found out the diagnoses, and wanted to hide under their blankie and suck their thumb. How can a child have a childhood, when their parents hear the word Autism, and collapse into a self-pitying crying jag, or start chanting that they’re gonna beat that big bad Autism.
I am not exaggerating, on one of the Autism Every Day videos, they had the parents call on the “Powha of voodoo” to save their children from Autism. Autism Speaks is leading self-pitying martyr parents in a kindergarten sing-a-long. That is pathetic. Meanwhile Autistic children have to deal with the real world, while their parents go on Tumblr and other sites communing over how the big bad Autism ruined their lives.
So why should Autistic people be expected to function, when so many NTs have shown they can’t. No, I don’t have slack of empathy. I just reserve it for parents who act like parents. Not parents who woe is me over their child’s diagnoses. Not parents who go to one of Autism Speaks open house kinder care for parents with a child with Autism group “Everyone gets a hug because they helped their child today! Yay!” sessions. I reserve my empathy for adults who act like adults. Don’t tell me or anyone else with Autism they have functioning problems, while you’re dealing with life as a small child does.
I’m having one of those nights.
One of those nights where I feel worthless. Useless.
One of those nights where I hate myself for everything I’m incapable of doing.
One of those nights where I think I must just be using my autism as an excuse. Because all the people around me can do these things, so why can’t I? I must simply be lazy.
One of those nights when I think about trying to do those things I can’t do, even though I know they’d break me. Because surely I must be overreacting. Surely the problem is that I’m just a coward.
One of those nights where I feel like I’m wasting time trying to catch my dreams.
One of those nights where my brain tells me I should just get my act together and do what everyone else does.
I really hate those nights.
I can relate to this so much. But it’s been happening more and more often for me lately :/
At least you can talk. At least you can hear your child say “I LOVE YOU.” It’s a DISABILITY, A DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY. MY SON HAS AUTISM. He can’t talk at all and he bites himself when he gets frustrated or excited so bad that his hand is calloused. Asperger kids/people get more fucking benefits. More help, more attention. FUCK THAT.
THE GOVERNMENT IS FUCKED UP. SO IS SOCIETY.
I’m seriously fed up with all the kids nowadays who have a social life, good grades, friends, etc., and just because they’re “awkward” or from time to time have anxiety (which absolutely every person in the world does) they automatically label themselves as autists, it’s upsetting!
Wow, seriously? Fuck the everloving fuck off, asshole. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome by one of the foremost experts on the east coast when I was nine. An EXPERT, something you are clearly not. Don’t sit and run your fucking mouth about people you don’t know and have never spoken to. It’s thanks in part to asswaffles like you that my life has been so hard.
You have no idea what I or other people like me go through. Because some of us get good grades, we’re not autistic? Shows how little you know. Autistic doesn’t mean stupid. It doesn’t mean we can never communicate, never make friends, never have relationships. It never has and it never will.
Shut your ignorant fucking mouth. I’m starting to see where “allistic scum” came from.
Because I keep seeing this, especially about feminism but about a lot of other issues, too.
Equality does not mean “treating everyone the same.” It means treating everyone fairly and yes, there is a difference. A huge one. If two people are in a race, but one starts halfway around the track and the other person starts at the start line, the first person is going to win. That’s not a fair race.
Life is similar. Women may be able to work outside the home, go to college, run for office, etc., but we still get paid less than men, we’re often treated like we’re too incompetent for our jobs, and let’s not even get started on rape culture and the current conservative movement to strip women of pretty much every right we’ve fought so hard for. These things are not equality. They’re not being “treated the same”, they’re steps towards being treated the same.
Same goes for, say, POC. Sure, they have far more rights now than they did in 1950; that still doesn’t mean they have equality. How does racism and poverty make equality, exactly? What about people like me, who are disabled? Not only are we treated differently from how abled people are treated, but obviously we start out with other disadvantages, too. We don’t start out at the same place as other people. You see?
Women don’t start out at the same place as men. POC don’t start out at the same place as white people. Transgender people don’t start out at the same place as cis people. And so on. It’s a systemic problem, one that doesn’t go away simply because some people on the internet like to scream about how we’re all equal now. We’re not, folks.
When people are, say, feminist—when they’re fighting for a cause—it’s to make everyone start on equal footing so we can all be on equal footing. For some that means changing the system so we’re all the same from birth. For others, like me, it means educating and changing views of disabled people so our disadvantages are understood and accepted, and measures are put into place to respect our needs.
Once we all have the same rights, the same respect, then we can talk about treating everyone the same. If you think we’re already there, you probably don’t have much experience with inequality.
P.S. First person to bring up misandry gets smacked through the internet with a frozen tuna. I mean it. Cranky aspie is cranky.