Posts tagged ableism

neuroatypically-speaking:

a-view-of-my-own:

I am tired: Of autistic tumblr users shaming parents, caregivers, therapists, doctors and others.

I am tired: Of being autistic, and shunned by members of the internet because I believe a ‘cure’ is a good thing.

I am tired: Of people assuming to know what my beliefs are concerning a ‘cure’.

I am tired: Of autistic members of tumblr attacking anyone who isn’t autistic and “dares to” write about autism.

I am autistic.

I am tired.

You know what I’m tired of?

I’m tired of our so-called allies attacking us when we don’t toe the line like the good little pet projects we’re supposed to be.

I’m tired of being called things like an “arrogant fuck” by allistic people because I want autism research to center around autistic people for a change.

I’m tired of being told I’m broken, damaged, wrong, ruined, defective, a burden, a hassle, diseased, in need of fixing.

I’m tired of people who have never been autistic a day in their lives writing like they know what it means better than I do.

I’m tired of people talking about finding a cure to something science doesn’t even begin to understand and appears to be making an active effort to never understand.

I’m tired of being told I lack emotions, I lack empathy, I can’t understand or relate to other people, by people who have never made an effort to understand or relate to me.

I’m tired of seeing articles about murdered autistic children whose parents are heaped with sympathy and who even get off without chargers.

I’m tired of seeing articles about young children, not even teenagers, being arrested and being the victims of police brutality while in the throes of a meltdown, because so much ignorance has been spread about autism that no one understands what they’re going through.

I’m tired of an allistic world that refuses to adjust to me at all, and instead I have to do all the work, which causes about 80% of my stress and hardship.

I am tired of talk of a cure because it says there’s something wrong with us, thus putting the onus on us and holding no one else responsible for their behavior towards and ignorance of us.

I am tired of talk of a cure because it means that no one searches deeper for answers about what autism is and means; why search for an explanation when you plan to get rid of it entirely anyway?

I am tired of lazy research, selfish parents, absurd hypotheses, bad science, alternative medicine gurus, anti-vaxxers, and people like Jenny McCarthy, Andrew Wakefield, and Simon Baron-Cohen.

I’m autistic.

I am pretty damn tired too, and you know what? I refuse to buy into the bullshit garbage society tries to feed me about how it’s my own fault. 

To quote one of my favorite Green Day songs:

And there’s nothing wrong with me/This is how I’m supposed to be/In a land of make believe/That don’t believe in me

neuroatypically-speaking:

royally-denied:

neuroatypically-speaking:

royally-denied:

lordof-thestarwars:

At least you can talk. At least you can hear your child say “I LOVE YOU.” It’s a DISABILITY, A DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY. MY SON HAS AUTISM. He can’t talk at all and he bites himself when he gets frustrated or excited so bad that his hand is calloused. Asperger kids/people get more fucking benefits. More help, more attention. FUCK THAT. 

THE GOVERNMENT IS FUCKED UP. SO IS SOCIETY. 

THANK YOU.

I’m seriously fed up with all the kids nowadays who have a social life, good grades, friends, etc., and just because they’re “awkward” or from time to time have anxiety (which absolutely every person in the world does) they automatically label themselves as autists, it’s upsetting!

Wow, seriously? Fuck the everloving fuck off, asshole. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome by one of the foremost experts on the east coast when I was nine. An EXPERT, something you are clearly not. Don’t sit and run your fucking mouth about people you don’t know and have never spoken to. It’s thanks in part to asswaffles like you that my life has been so hard. 

You have no idea what I or other people like me go through. Because some of us get good grades, we’re not autistic? Shows how little you know. Autistic doesn’t mean stupid. It doesn’t mean we can never communicate, never make friends, never have relationships. It never has and it never will.

Shut your ignorant fucking mouth. I’m starting to see where “allistic scum” came from.

Oh lawdy.

And that happens to what, 80% of the population? Almost every kid/teen/whatever in the world has problem communicating or making friends, you’re just using Aspergers as an excuse for that. Unless you’re implying everyone in the world has this illness, which is just silly.

And you know what’s funny? Aspergers is a real thing, or at least it used to be, it was inicially used for people who, which much effort, love and dedication came out of their own personal world caused by autism and are struggling to get used to the “real world”. That’s what aspergers was. But it was modified to fit all these socially awkward people who’re not even trying. Heck, even I have problems making friends but I just try a bit extra and sometimes fail or succeed, but you don’t see me abusing that word and using it as en excuse for having less friends than the next person. 

And honey, if you can’t have relationships then maybe try watching your language, ever thought it might be because of that? ♥

Oh look, another allistic fuckwit who can’t read and thinks they know everything. Don’t tell me to watch my language. I am married; I never said I can’t have relationships—I said the opposite, which you would know if you put the lid on your privilege and ignorance for the five fucking seconds it would take to actually read what I wrote. 

Your “definition” of Asperger’s is so ignorant and out of touch with reality, it blows my mind. Don’t sit here and tell me I’m abusing the word. I AM AUTISTIC. I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH IT. By people a fuck of a lot smarter than your daft ass, I might add. I’ve been diagnosed since I was nine. Almost twenty years now. You don’t get to sit here and tell me what AS is, especially when your “definition” is about five thousand tons of woo and bullshit. 

I have struggled through so much. Someone like you wouldn’t have survived what I’ve been through. Your mind is too weak, too small and narrow. Stop being a judgmental cockwaffle and start listening to the people who are actually going through this shit. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT AUTISM IS BETTER THAN AUTISTIC PEOPLE. 

Get the fuck out with your nonsense. And don’t you dare call me honey, you patronizing bastard. Why should I give a shit what you think about my language, since you don’t fucking listen to people anyway? Fuck off. 

autistichedgehog:

Saw this on the Autism tag. “Look out Autism, we’re going to deal with you!” Okay, first off, don’t these people see how immature they sound? Like, “We’re going to fight you big bad Autism doo doo head!”

I think growing up being expected to behave socially appropriate by the schools I went to, has given me no tolerance for adults who cope the way toddlers do. Autism is a developmental disorder. It’s not the boogeyman, or the monster under your bed. A child shouldn’t have to deal with a parent, who refers to their diagnoses like a scared toddler. Finding out your child has Autism means you need to be more of a parent, that means helping your child, rather than calling “Autism” bad names as if you’re going to scare it off.

A lot of consideration should go to those of us with Autism who try to understand your situation. It’s like helping a 2 year old get over their fear of the dark. Adults with Autism shouldn’t have to come and tell you it’s going to be all right, because your sniffling over your child having a difference.

I’m sure I’ll be getting over dramatic responses about how, I don’t know what it’s like, and “You’re MEAN!”. Autistic people have a right to existence. They have a right to be treated as any other child would. That means not having to parent their parents, because their parents age regressed when they found out the diagnoses, and wanted to hide under their blankie and suck their thumb. How can a child have a childhood, when their parents hear the word Autism, and collapse into a self-pitying crying jag, or start chanting that they’re gonna beat that big bad Autism.

I am not exaggerating, on one of the Autism Every Day videos, they had the parents call on the “Powha of voodoo” to save their children from Autism. Autism Speaks is leading self-pitying martyr parents in a kindergarten sing-a-long. That is pathetic. Meanwhile Autistic children have to deal with the real world, while their parents go on Tumblr and other sites communing over how the big bad Autism ruined their lives.

So why should Autistic people be expected to function, when so many NTs have shown they can’t. No, I don’t have slack of empathy. I just reserve it for parents who act like parents. Not parents who woe is me over their child’s diagnoses. Not parents who go to one of Autism Speaks open house kinder care for parents with a child with Autism group “Everyone gets a hug because they helped their child today! Yay!” sessions. I reserve my empathy for adults who act like adults. Don’t tell me or anyone else with Autism they have functioning problems, while you’re dealing with life as a small child does.

neuroatypically-speaking:

Because I keep seeing this, especially about feminism but about a lot of other issues, too. 

Equality does not mean “treating everyone the same.” It means treating everyone fairly and yes, there is a difference. A huge one. If two people are in a race, but one starts halfway around the track and the other person starts at the start line, the first person is going to win. That’s not a fair race.

Life is similar. Women may be able to work outside the home, go to college, run for office, etc., but we still get paid less than men, we’re often treated like we’re too incompetent for our jobs, and let’s not even get started on rape culture and the current conservative movement to strip women of pretty much every right we’ve fought so hard for. These things are not equality. They’re not being “treated the same”, they’re steps towards being treated the same.

Same goes for, say, POC. Sure, they have far more rights now than they did in 1950; that still doesn’t mean they have equality. How does racism and poverty make equality, exactly? What about people like me, who are disabled? Not only are we treated differently from how abled people are treated, but obviously we start out with other disadvantages, too. We don’t start out at the same place as other people. You see?

Women don’t start out at the same place as men. POC don’t start out at the same place as white people. Transgender people don’t start out at the same place as cis people. And so on. It’s a systemic problem, one that doesn’t go away simply because some people on the internet like to scream about how we’re all equal now. We’re not, folks.

When people are, say, feminist—when they’re fighting for a cause—it’s to make everyone start on equal footing so we can all be on equal footing. For some that means changing the system so we’re all the same from birth. For others, like me, it means educating and changing views of disabled people so our disadvantages are understood and accepted, and measures are put into place to respect our needs. 

Once we all have the same rights, the same respect, then we can talk about treating everyone the same. If you think we’re already there, you probably don’t have much experience with inequality.

P.S. First person to bring up misandry gets smacked through the internet with a frozen tuna. I mean it. Cranky aspie is cranky.